it is always amazing to me that more people don’t know what tired looks like. I happen to be one of them. It took me getting a cold to realize how incredibly run down I have been feeling and to finally give myself permission to take a few days off. In that time I discovered how incredibly blessed I am to have the family I do. Amazingly, as I stepped out of the “mother” role I was bathed in love. My children nurtured me just how I would them. I was showered with tea, warm blankets and lovely snuggles as I lay in my bed shivering from the fever that was moving through my body. My body was doing its job to heal and all I could do was receive. To accept this state and the love that was being offered to me. I am truly blessed.
I also get to experience tired through my encounters with other people. As an empath tired is one of those states that it is hard to distinguish if it is mine or the people around me. I have a friend who comes to stay with me from time to time, she is a little thing, but a big coffee drinker. On the outside she is a complete dynamo. Always scurrying about, doing fun things, being with people, travelling, playing sports and so on. I often feel completely inadequate when I compare all that she does, that is until I tune into tired. When I am with her I am oompletely exhausted. I used to think it was an energy vampire kind of thing, but now I realize I am feeling her tired. She is exhausted but unaware as she rides on coffee and other stimulants. Undoubtably she needs a few glasses of wine each night to calm her down.
The other experience that I am able to witness is parents with their children. As busy people they include their children in busy. Keeping them playing and active, albeit and important part of healthy children, can be detrimental as well. I observe families staying so busy to always occupy their children that they have not taught them how to be still, to create with their imagination and play quietly. The parents albeit well intentioned sometimes miss the cues that the child acting out is a bored child, not a tired one. Then enter more activity, feuling the tired cycle. Some families I know keep their children so busy and active that they have no idea how to be home and quiet.
We all can learn from the cues of tired. To value times of stillness. As many adults are now turning to stillness and learning to be in the moment, I believe this is an important ability to nurture in children as well.
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